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Gay married man coming out story

Dear Chris …

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The traffic in DC is snarled, 8 billion police on the street, roadblocks abound with the G20 meetings happening and I'm locked in the car with Andrew, my Stanford friend, we're making our way to dinner with Peter and SSK (super sexy kitten). Andrew shyly says, "Can I ask you a gay question?". I'm busy honking the horn at the world and screaming obscenities at neighboring cars (I'm prone to road rage, where is my 9mm). What what what?

I've found that now that I have the "gay" merit badge, people like to start talking to me about sex. Woman telling how big their husband's cock is (or not), details of their sexual life and asking me all sorts of intimate questions. Guys shyly ask stuff too. One of my straight friends is telling me that he's being seeing prostitutes (after 14 years of marriage).  What am I? Ann Landers?

The other night, Tiger Cub and I out with his best girlfriend and her boyfriend. At his house, I'm checking out his darkened office. "This is a good porn viewing spot!", I venture. She quickly protests that her boyfriend is getting plenty of action and NO he doesn't need porn. Tiger Cub and I quickly jump on this topic, her boyfriend emerges and we hound him to answer. "OK maybe a 2 or 3 times a week", he glumly looks at the floor and disappears into the kitchen. "WHAT!!! You're looking at porn!", she exclaims. Tiger Cub and I are rolling on the floor laughing. At least he was honest. But most of us aren't.

TC and I talking this morning about gay and straight couples. In evidently one partner ain't so happy with the sex. But they don't talk about it. The reason we gathered, if you bring up the topic and it isn't dealt with properly — well it likely just got worse. So you don't and like some silent killer, it lurks in the shadows.

If you don't think you're do'ing it enough — well you probably aren't.

Prof. Tim is alone in Chicago this weekend and advising that the Latino community is missing me. Ah my brown boys are soo sweet.

4 Comments

  1. My teacher friend that you met is recently single and dragging me out every night this weekend. New Latin club tonight 🙂
    I hope the better half gets home soon, as I think I’ve now viewed all the porn on the Internet and am scrounging up my old magazines. Ah, how I missed Latin Inches January, 1999.

  2. That is so funny! Your posts are great, but honestly . . . you are the last person in the world I would seek any personal advice from. For God’s sake, do they not read your blog? Your a mess! (a lovable mess, but lets face it, a mess)

  3. so you’ve noticed that straight friends feel comfortable talking about sexual issues with their gay friends….I think its because a) no competition, and b) straight women trying to figure out their men and who better to talk to than a gay man? I do it all the time and I’ve realized that the relationship problems are the same (duh…) but its much easier talking to my gay friends about sex than to my lover. sad, huh?

  4. so you’ve noticed that straight friends feel comfortable talking about sexual issues with their gay friends….I think its because a) no competition, and b) straight women trying to figure out their men and who better to talk to than a gay man? I do it all the time and I’ve realized that the relationship problems are the same (duh…) but its much easier talking to my gay friends about sex than to my lover. sad, huh?

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