Peter, my straight friend, is hanging his head down. He’s getting a lecture from me this time. Did you REALLY have to pick-up someone up from one of our customers and do that? "I know, I know it just seemed like a good idea at the time", was his reply.
My guess is a guy, with no health concerns, social stigma or other impedance is likely to have as many sexual partners as they can acquire. Isn’t that some sort of primal thing? Spreading your seed? I catch myself in animal mode sometimes, easy big fella. Peter is clearly in that mode, many of his conquests try to put the bridle on him, but he slips away, because he hasn’t found love or perhaps he’s not looking for it.
Men, it appears, are willing to give up the sex train for love. Or that’s the deal when you get married. At least sex with multiple people. So we guys compromise one thing, to get another. But, of course, this raises the question, can men fall in love with each other? Aren’t two gay guys fundamentally competing for the same pool of available guys?
I’m sure there are lots of examples of happy gay couples, only I’m not seeing loads of them. In my limited discussion with guys, I’ve sensed general high expectations of what gays want in a relationship. "I want them to be ….." the list just goes on and on. I’m not sure any guy can fulfill those kind of requirements. So their dream prince never arrives and with each burned relationship, they add one more expectation to their list.
I writing this for myself today. Keep your expectations low and be surprised when someone does something that exceeds them, is what I’m thinking.