Folks – just wait. There’s going to be tears soon when he leaves. TC and I now talking about extending his stay with me to 3 weeks. This is going to be hard on both of us. But that’s not the topic of today’s posting.
TC is telling me last night about Roberto, a cute bartender TC’s age that I always found attractive and works in TC’s London bar. Well Roberto is telling TC about how his boyfriend “fisted” him for the first time the other night and how much he enjoyed it.
Now why someone would tell you about this sexual activity is beyond me. But TC and I struggling with the act itself, how particularly extreme and for such a young guy. I’m all for keeping things sexually interesting between two people and if both parties agree and no one gets hurt, well then go for it. BUT fisting a 23 year old?
Roberto is quite sweet but what level of previous sexual activity had he reached to have to be “fisted” now to get enjoyment? TC shakes his head. It explains to me why TC so often holds himself back, he knows how ugly gay guys can get.
I write about this for the newbies, me included. I’m simply amazed and shocked. Walking around Cologne, the many sex shops, leather, toys, dildos of all sizes (and I mean ALL sizes) and things I have to stop and ask “what do you do with that”. I wonder about the extreme nature some guys go to enjoy sex.
A year ago, I was living life in the suburbs, mowing my grass, holding court at my dinner table each night. Blissfully unaware of the depth of the gay sexual scene. I can believe an entire sector of gay guys who simply disappear from the scene, scared of what they’ve witnessed, worried they might fall victim to, alone in the world.
I’m making a judgement. A judgement not whether that’s right or wrong. But a judgement that’s not the behaviour I want for myself or the person I’m with. Our Gay 101 class shall continue.