I’m on my way to Australia, so if you don’t hear from me for a while, no need to send out a search party. I’ll let you know how I’m doing (eventually).
Many of the gay bloggers, myself included, are constantly lamented about the oft bizarre behavioral elements of gay men, Gay Mafia blogger pretty much captured it and thus it’s out there and we don’t really need to discuss it further. You can’t change other people (women love to do this), much less an entire society.
But what is slowly apparent to me is many of these same gay bloggers engage in the very practices that get played on them and which they so loath. Little games. I was taken by a headline from a new book by Shirley MacLaine which said, “IN THIS THIRD ACT OF MY LIFE, MUCH HAS BECOME CLEARER. SO MUCH IS OVER, AND I AM OVER SO MUCH . . .”
This comment resounded with me. On the edge of 50, it’s long time for me to be over just about everything. I speak now with far more clarity, I do what I want to do, I am not concerned with who you are or more importantly who you think you are, I am on my own mission.
Too many people think there is some art to a relationship. There isn’t. I remember Peter (my lost friend) who spent a lot of time figuring out how to be clever in his dealings, this seemed to take a lot of time and in the end what was going to happen happened.
Plain talk is in short supply these days. I deal with executives all day long who are just totally full of shit. Politicians who yak yak and say nothing. Two prospective Lovebirds playing little games. I find the underlying reason for almost all of this is simply they have fucking idea about what they’re talking about and are scared that the world will find out.
If you like someone, tell them. There is no right or wrong way. If you want something from someone, tell them. If you want something, let them know. Got expectations, put them on the table, few of us have mind reading capabilities. Progress would happen a whole lot faster if we just said what we thought or felt.
So remember if you’re being played, it’s likely you played as well. You wanna stop this vicious circle, you have the power to stop it first. Meanwhile, I’m in 70A if you need me.