OMG – when Prof. Tim weighs in, I have to react. I am sorry if you took offense. My underlying message is that HIV is a huge issue with serious long term consequences to the infected person. This ain’t a take two pills and call me in the morning problem. Clearly it seems to be getting worse. I remember early in my own postings, every gay bar had bowls of condoms for that ‘just in case’ event, now I’m hard pressed to see them in any venue. So while the rate of infection has gone up, perhaps the efforts to educate and keep top of mind and as well supplied have faltered a bit.
However HIV is a 100% preventable disease. This isn’t a birth defect, or cancer you got or some horrible infection you picked up on the subway. This is a disease you got because you had unprotected sex of some sort. That simple. There was no gun and clearly I would hope that ever gay man in the world knows the consequences of unprotected sex. Prof. Tim counters that “Chris, things happen, perhaps you drank too much and your guard was down“. Fair enough, shit happens.
But let”s say I drank too much one night, drove home, rode off the road, flipped my car and seriously & permanently injured myself. How much sympathy would I get? OK so some, we all have made bad decisions. But when we drove home a little bit drunk, we didn’t think we’d have an accident. Damn.
I’m not unsympathetic, one bad day turns into a lifetime. There are few decisions in life with so devastating consequences. I am totally sympathetic for those accidentally infected, a cheating trusted partner, a mechanical failure and so on. My point is that HIV is preventable and you have a choice. Despite Prof. Tim’s words, I’m not sure I would ever be so drunk as to allow unprotected sex to occur, but that’s me. Only you can prevent HIV (ain’t that what Smokey the Bear would say?).
I will hold my stance on being with an HIV+ person. Yes, we’d all like to think we’re noble and intelligent people and I wouldn’t be the least bit concerned about being a friend to an HIV+ person. But dating? Long term relationship? No.
Tell me I’m narrow minded, shallow and whatever other words you’d like (hit the little comment button below), but my question do you have you/are you in a relationship with an HIV+ person? If you give me the line, no, but I would. Well let me know when you sign up. I can fully understand an HIV+ person not wishing to share that, but at what point do you? Hopefully not pass the point of no return. For me, I’ve got enough balls in the air, HIV shouldn’t be in my cards.
I leave with my main worry & point, I hope we can eliminate HIV, while drugs have suppressed many of the symptoms and death is no longer certain, it remains a long term and serious affliction. Only with constant education, peer pressure and state of mind can we reduce the growing and horrible statistics that we are now seeing.