My wife and I have both been looking for a support group of married gay men. She found one for herself, the Straight Spouse Network, it’s gotten some press in the New York Times and they have local chapters all over the place.
Fine by me, my wife sends an email inquiry. Response is there are a number of chapters meeting in the Washington DC metro area. God, are there that many married guys screwing around with men?
She selects the closest chapter and writes the leader, who responds that they meet every 2 weeks at her house and she’ll advise when the next meeting is. All is good.
Couple of days later, the chapter leader writes my wife, "sorry, my husband and I decided to get divorced, so I won’t be holding any more meetings, good luck."
The search continues.