Being cheated on says I’m not good enough for you and it deepens further to say I don’t respect our relationship and finally it hits bedrock with the whole issue of trust. Cheating thus seems to be the single pill method to f’up whatever relationship you’re in. It’s the leading cause of break-ups for gay couples. Guys and their dicks, not a good combination.
You can easily accept someone’s apology (I screwed up), but things often are never the same. But a greater power does exist, it’s the power of total forgiveness and only the cheatee can grant it. This relationship chemo treatment wipes the slate clean, resetting not only the bad, but also the good deeds that were previously done. It’s a massive white-out, best used sparingly.
Total forgiveness isn’t easily granted, for it is a virtue of the weak and an ornament of the strong. The cheater must come to fully understand and appreciate the great sacrifice being made by the cheatee in granting forgiveness and for that moment, the cheatee is a better person than they. From this, you hope, new found love and respect can be found.
This situation with TC won’t be resolved in a phone call and is best served in person and my maturity (or stupidity, sometimes interchangeable) is allowing me to withhold judgement for the moment. Time answers all questions.