Sitting in hotel, raining outside, I decided to write a brief note to Daniel, the intelligent Japanese-American guy I had met in DC, I don’t have his email, but I remembered you could search him on Facebook (though he had hidden his profile). So I go to Facebook, find him, and email him via the website.
My message, was basically “hi, hope you are doing well, I’m traveling in Europe but was thinking about you, hope you will stay in touch, you’re a nice person, glad to have met”.
Couple of hours later, I get this reply, “Netherlands? Wow, hope you are having fun. Stay safe there and don’t get into trouble. Things aren’t working out too bad here. Work definitely keeps me on my toes. You know how it goes.”
Fine, I think, so today I’m responding to another Facebook request and notice a big “?” by Daniel’s name. Sure enough, he’s vanished from Facebook, you can no longer search for him any way. Guess he has to know you now.
I feel like stalker, was this the wrong way to contact him? Clearly getting the message though, but it strikes me as horribly immature and worse insecure. I feel sorry for him, what things in his life will he miss because he’s so fearful of someone “finding” him.
I realize I’m on the extreme opposite pole from Daniel, but life is about engaging with other humans, we happen to be all over the place, probably one on a street corner near you. Is he avoiding others or avoiding himself?