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Image361 Tiger Cub is stressed. Back in Toronto, he caught up with one of his good friends, who basically asked him "WTF are you doing with your life you're almost 25?" Well TC has spent the last 2 years seeing the world and now he's waiting on me. But he's still worried, "Chris – I'm almost 25 I need to do something with my life, I have to be on my way by the time I'm 30".

Choices. Sometimes we even get to make them ourselves. Me? I'm sitting with a financial storm brewing, my own company could tell me to return to home base, have me return to Europe on a new mission or fire me in a layoff. I won't have much of a choice.

So calmly I told TC, he needed to scout out what the job situation was in Toronto, look into going back to school and sad as it may be, if that's the right choice for him, I'd be 100% supportative. He didn't like that answer, it would likely mean us parting ways, a loved one slipping under the waves. Sad indeed.

Much better would be for me to go JR's (a local gay bar) some Thursday, hook-up with whatever is hanging on the hooks there that night and me (Mr. Obvious) getting caught by TC the next day. He could then fly off the handle, tell me to f'off, slam the phone down and never talk again. Nice n' tidy.

I have my own mess and clearly I don't want to string him along or drag him into anything that's not a good long term idea. I want to do something myself, to make a change, make it happen. But I have no buttons to push or levers to pull, I simply need to have patience. Hope for the best, plan for the worse. This story will be told in the next weeks.


  1. Wow. I can’t believe that I am going to give feedback on a blog but here it goes:
    It seems like you know that the best choice for you is to make a break and do what you need to do within the big picture of everything going on right now. If the two of you are willing to make the committment to each other and possibly ignore common sense then forget what everyone else thinks and more importantly what you have been conditioned to think and just move in together, share your life and see where it goes. Otherwise you may both need to move on and reflect on your time together as a wonderful experience and look back on it fondly.
    I am not trying to be judgemental but I have shared a similar experience and know about some of the challenges you two face.
    Best wishes either way.

  2. The choices in front of you and TC are so difficult and I’d be the last to give advice. However, love is so difficult to find; so is a genuine relationship where there is a deep connection and both partners get so much. You’ve been through so much in the last year and I think you both genuinely care for each other. Make sacrifices and hard choices, but don’t give up on love.—from a faithful female reader—

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