Jack Wrangler died early last year at 62, smoked himself to death. Never heard of Jack Wrangler? Well you should. Jack was one of the first gay porn stars and a true trail blazer in breaking thru all kinds of barriers. There is a great documentary on Jack called. “Wrangler: Anatomy of an Icon” available on Netflix, it’s definitely worth a view.
Perhaps most interesting was that from 1994 until his death in 2009, Jack was married to a woman. A woman fully aware of who he was. More interesting is to hear Jack explain himself why he got married in the interviews. Seems Jack was uber-competitive and simply found he couldn’t live with another man. Two male fish in the same bowl constantly fighting. He found he bonded emotionally with a woman and hence his marriage.
Jack was 47 when he got married so this wasn’t a fad thing for him, he had found himself and more importantly someone else who understood him. If you watch the documentary, what’s clear is Jack is a guy, no girlie elements and you’d be hard pressed to have said he was “gay” simply by appearances. The word stud comes to mind.
The world often tries to hand us coloring books with the lines already drawn. For many, it’s a great template, others simply follow along, too scared to color outside the lines and then there’s you. You have a blank sheet and fundamentally you can do whatever and be whatever you wish, just as long as you’re comfortable that others may not be comfortable with you. Let your art begin.