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Gay married man coming out story

I’m not that horny, but let’s talk about sex anyways

And you guys thought I couldn't write a catchy title! The conversations with TC which started as daily catch-ups have grown to be an hour long dialog on the day's activities. Making things more complex, TC is one horny little brown critter whose decided I need devote some part of our hour long discussions talking dirty to him. On a cold rainy day, I have no doubt TC would want some form of sex at least three times (and I'm thinking mainly the bad form).

Obviously from my history, sex wasn't a mainstay of my relationship with my wife. Our relationship for the most part was based on love and companionship and we endured for 16 years together and despite all the crap I've put her thru, we still have a pretty good connection to another. The question of whether we were both happy is subject to debate and, of course, the facts as they stand today answer many questions.

But sex is part of a relationship, I'm starting to believe. My old aunt revealed to me this weekend that my other aunt and her husband slept in separate bedrooms following the birth of their 4th child and their marriage was totally destroyed. The subtle message – they weren't having sex any longer. The last pregnancy had been difficult and the doctor had told them not to have any more kids. Being good Catholics, they didn't use birth control so you can just imagine the arguments they had,  the war ended with them in separate bedrooms. Were they happy? Who knows, they stayed together until the end of their lives.

It's 11 p.m. and I'm in bed, TC calls again. He wants to make sure I'm at home. Trust but verify is his model. He's also horny (again), seems he gets that way just talking to me. I'm all bedded down. We're working a sinister plan full of intrigue and mystery to get him to Cologne. But that's another story.

Note: I'ved increased the font-size for Mark, who sadly we may have to put down as his other systems ultimately fail him.

3 Comments

  1. Thanks but I’ve begin to training my seeing eye dog how to read aloud…..
    I think one thing which strikes me about this particular blog is the need for intmancy. The need to be able to reach out and touch one another. It would appear that was taken away from your aunt and uncle after the 4th child. In the case of you and TC, that is missing right now. I don’t think it’s a much TC is mistrustful of you (will maybe a little bit, after all you have a reputation to uphold) but that inablilty to curl up next to you and feel loved and warm.
    Whilest I loved (and still do love my ex) it’s a different feeling having Geoff next to me in bed at night or just sitting in the living room reading together.

  2. hey Chris, was blog-hopping when i was linked to your site. i must say, i am pretty intrigued by your writing and your life. it is an extremely brave thing to do, coming out to your wife and kids.
    hope that everything works out great for you and TC!

  3. You are so witty. I chuckle every time I read your blog. Now, is that little cub of yours behaving? Are you? LOL. No, really, I enjoy the images you paint. I can just imagine the very long and thoughtful conversations that you and little cub have over the phone, they sound so special. Finding someone we can communicate with on an intellectual level as well as on a rich and satisfying sexual level is so important – and so rare. You are so lucky to have found that incredibly rare combination. I also agree with the last comment, your story is incredible. Not only are you an extremelty strong model in coming out to your wife, you have also continued to be a strong and ever present father in your son’s young lives, all this while also being an incredible lover and partner to your TC. My only concern sometimes is that you stretch yourself so thin, a devoted husband, a wonderful and overly involved father, a strong emotional and sexual relationship with a magnificantly intelligent young man — where is the time for yourself? I guess this blog is your time for yourself, and I just simply admire your intelligence and self sacrifice. Please keep on setting the standard for the rest of us. You are simply the best.

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