Single in the City blogger and I met for drinks last night. He’s part Latino and I spent most of the evening trying to figure out which part. He’s soooo cute. He did a posting about our night. He didn’t say I was cute though, bitch!
Actually it was quite nice to put a face/voice, I had similar emotions that he posted about so click over and take a read. We had a free flowing conversation and strangely there was an element of mutual caring. Both of us total strangers, but reading our blogs, it was like we knew it other and it was caring to talk with him.
He provided a bunch of insight into how gay guys think. I actually gained a prospective on why younger guys and I get on. Both of us early in a coming out stage, so experimenting, stumbling along and neither of us yet totally jaded by the whole professional gay world. That made a lot of sense to me.
He couldn’t help me on relationships. He’s been in only 2 relatively short term ones. He wondered himself whether he would ever find a LTR. I’m a professional, 16 years married and my previous GF was 5 years. I don’t know any other game than LTR. I’m not going to play another one either.
I see gay guys bifurcate their relationships. One person (TC has his girlfriend) for intimacy, a group of close friends (which act like an extended family) and a merry-go-round of boyfriends (for sex and romance).
If that’s the model, I’m not surprised I don’t see gay guys running too many companies. I don’t have enough hours in my day to manage all of these different people. I focus on making money and opted for the all-in-1 model, it would be called my wife. I have few male friends and just don’t have the cycles to spend with them. I’ve probably spent more hours on my personal ife in the last year than in the previous 10. It’s getting old.
Single in the City doesn’t believe me, but no, I’m not going to play by the gay guy rules. It’s Chris rules. Step on to my battlefield.