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Single in the City blogger and I met for drinks last night. He’s part Latino and I spent most of the evening trying to figure out which part. He’s soooo cute. He did a posting about our night. He didn’t say I was cute though, bitch!

Actually it was quite nice to put a face/voice, I had similar emotions that he posted about so click over and take a read. We had a free flowing conversation and strangely there was an element of mutual caring. Both of us total strangers, but reading our blogs, it was like we knew it other and it was caring to talk with him.

He provided a bunch of insight into how gay guys think. I actually gained a prospective on why younger guys and I get on. Both of us early in a coming out stage, so experimenting, stumbling along and neither of us yet totally jaded by the whole professional gay world. That made a lot of sense to me.

He couldn’t help me on relationships. He’s been in only 2 relatively short term ones. He wondered himself whether he would ever find a LTR. I’m a professional, 16 years married and my previous GF was 5 years. I don’t know any other game than LTR. I’m not going to play another one either.

I see gay guys bifurcate their relationships. One person (TC has his girlfriend) for intimacy, a group of close friends (which act like an extended family) and a merry-go-round of boyfriends (for sex and romance).

If that’s the model, I’m not surprised I don’t see gay guys running too many companies. I don’t have enough hours in my day to manage all of these different people. I focus on making money and opted for the all-in-1 model, it would be called my wife. I have few male friends and just don’t have the cycles to spend with them. I’ve probably spent more hours on my personal ife in the last year than in the previous 10. It’s getting old.

Single in the City doesn’t believe me, but no, I’m not going to play by the gay guy rules. It’s Chris rules. Step on to my battlefield.


  1. Hi Chris
    interesting blog for me : 44 bi married 3 kids under 15 and stuck in the closet.

  2. Good for you! Play by your own rules. You were cute!! for a married middle age guy. Best of luck and keep in touch. Can’t wait to see how it all turns out!

  3. Single Guy is great to know, as he does have a lot of experience at being a gay guy! I’ve learned heaps from him! But obviously, we all need to make up our own minds about how we are going to live our lives…there are no hard and fast rules!

  4. Okay – I’ve spent most of yesterday and today reading your blog from the beginning to now.
    I must say your writing style is very intriguing and engaging. I simply couldn’t stop reading (I hope work is not going to figure out that’s all I’ve been doing!).
    I feel a little sad for you because you seem to have had a bit of bad luck when it comes to the gay romance department. But I think the “perfect picture” is out there – it’s just a numbers game and if you are at it for long enough, you’ll find someone with whom you can have a happy arrangement. Although I must say your whole wife and family situation would make things difficult.
    It seems to me that you have some choices to make but you’re reluctant to making them. It’s almost like you want a good return but the risk is too high and you’re not particularly prepared to take a huge risk to potentially get a huge return.
    But I think you’ll get there nonetheless. It’s just a matter of time. Good luck. 😀

  5. I came out just before Christmas in 2003. Had counselling from then on until about May 2004, made a few gay friends in the mean time, went out with them one night in June 2004 and she moved out that night. I came home to an empty house. Sounds like your experience is much better than mine, dude.

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