You really don’t know someone until you’ve had an argument with them. What caused the fight to break out? How do you fight, words and actions, what sort of weaponry to you break out? An more importantly, how do you reconcil, make up, move on?
Our fight was about him kissing this guy in a club the other night. We had agreed in advance that this was an OK rule. The reality is we agreed it was OK and thus I had no cause to get angry. Chris wasn’t aware I was observing him and in fact, he immediately came & told me that he’d kissed someone. I thought watching him kiss another guy would be a turn on. It wasn’t. I started fuming like a volcano. Couples generally fight about 2 primary topics: money & sex. I guess our fight was about sex.
I’ve watched people argue and worry when couples attack each other on low level core personality attributes. It’s a sign that the entire relationship is suspect. Chris and I fought with polite silence.
The makeup has to be about both sides conceding. If you’re together, you’re together, there is no “winner” or “loser” in a couple’s fight. We both fell on our swords and in that instant, the argument was over.